The Effects Of Daddy Issues

Complaining about problems we have is our specialty. Who better knows our problems than ourselves? When we grow older, we tend to have a moment of clarity. For example, it dawned on Tammy the other day that she drinks wine a lot because, as a child, she saw her dad drink every night. Tammy now realizes that she only drinks every night because she wants to be like her dad. Tammy experienced a moment of clarity and realized that she has “daddy issues.”

The phrase “daddy issue” has been around for a while. It’s typically used when referring to a kid who was once rejected by their father, or has been influenced negatively by their dad in some way. As a result, the child, once grown, may find that they are still influenced by their father’s actions. Daddy issues are generally linked to girls, but can be experienced by anyone. The phrase has been coined as a joke or motif for years, but it does hold some truth.

Though we may joke about having daddy issues with our friends, in reality, these are real problems. These issues don’t stop at high school dropout rates, of behavioral problems. They continue to echo through our lives when we’re faced with hard choices such as having to bail our boyfriends, husbands, or even fathers out of jail. We may feel disconnected and not want to help them. We may group all male figures in the same group, saying things like, “You can’t trust men.” Daddy issues can lead us to make emotional choices instead of factual decisions.

Regardless of any unresolved emotional conflicts with parental figures, it is essential to acknowledge our shared humanity. As individuals, we possess the capacity for growth through practicing forgiveness and taking responsibility for our actions. It is imperative not to allow past experiences to unduly sway our decisions for the future. Embracing a mindset of personal accountability can pave the way for self-improvement and a more fulfilling journey ahead. Remember, we are all flawed beings navigating the complexities of life, and it is through understanding and acceptance that we can chart a more empowered path forward.

Be the difference you want to see. Instead of holding grudges, bail your father and yourself out of the stigma of daddy issues this Father’s Day.